The people behind these operations are organized, well-funded, and constantly testing what works. They send millions of messages to find the ones who are tired, distracted, grieving, or simply having a normal Tuesday. Sooner or later, one of those messages lands.
Shame is the scammer’s friend. It keeps people from telling their family, calling the bank, and reporting the loss. Saying out loud that it happened is the first defensive move, not the last one.